Announcements are a piece of life, for example, when you land at the air terminal in another nation; when one gets hitched and proclaims a promise; when one turns into a resident of another nation and pronounces dependability.
Be that as it may, the vast majority of us generally don’t focus on revelations as long as they are not a piece of our every day life.
However, on the off chance that you give close consideration to individuals around you – companions, among them – you may be amazed to perceive how regularly they state assertions, for example,
- “You can ask me whatever you wish.”
- “I have no mysteries at all.”
- “I have such a great amount of affection to give.”
- “I am a fair individual.”
- “I couldn’t care less much about cash.”
They rehash their announcements time and, as though needing to ensure you get it; as though needing to dazzle you, over and over, this is the kind of people they are.
The entertaining thing is, the reason do they believe they have to rehash such proclamations time and? What drives them to dazzle it on you this is the sort of people they are?
For what reason do individuals resort to statements? Also, what makes them rehash these time and?
Incomprehensibly, when you hear somebody proclaims, on numerous occasions, that he/she is such and such, no doubt he/she isn’t simply the manner in which they announce to be.
Whoever says “I am straightforward” is in all probability not such a genuine individual (generally, for what reason would he/she want to announce, on numerous occasions, about being straightforward?). Furthermore, the person who continually pronounces he/she has no insider facts, and is open, and “please ask me anything you desire”, is probably going to have mysteries (quite recently like any other individual).
The pitiful part is, that a great many people who “cover up” behind such announcements frequently don’t live agreeing their own revelations. What they plan to accomplish with such revelations is to make a picture of themselves which isn’t who they truly are.
What’s more, individuals who attempt to claim to be not what their identity is – regardless of whether they do so deliberately or unwittingly – don’t make every moment count and can’t frame a genuine personal connection. Professing to be somebody who they are not keeps them from prevailing in self-realizing themselves!
So next time you hear any of your companions pronouncing, for the 100th time, that he/she is such and such, you can have a decision:
- Either to scrutinize his/her trustworthiness (which frequently doesn’t do any great since he/she is probably going to be ignorant of his/her own self-attacking conduct), or
- Just to go on with whatever you two discussion about (or do together), realizing that, sadly, the individual before you isn’t who he/she professes to be.
Now and again you may be ignorant of the way that your companion claims to be not who she/he is. The explanation being: that is the way you “know” him/her for quite a while, and there may be no purpose behind you to “suspect” that the individual before you isn’t who she/he announces self to be.
In any case, now and again you gradually – or possibly all of a sudden – come to understand that something “fishy” is going on with this individual. That he/she is to some degree “fake”; untrustworthy. You may have gotten him/her with “little lies”, making you wonder what remains behind the lies; behind the need to lie. Or then again you may see that he/she carries on in manners which are opposing to his/her self-revelations.
It is then that you start to ponder:
- Whether your “companion” is real; a genuinely decent companion; a legitimate and honest individual.
- And additionally: How come you didn’t see it quite a while back?
- furthermore you may ponder: who this individual really is; who is the individual behind the veil, behind the “imagining”.
At that point it may hit you: what drives this individual to carry on the way he/she does, to profess to be somebody he/she isn’t?
It is difficult to tell. It is difficult to get into another person’s psyche and recognize what’s happening inside this individual, regardless of whether this individual is an exceptionally dear companion of yours.
So you may have your very own theories:
- Maybe this individual – do despite everything you respect him/her as a companion? – has such a low confidence, that he/she sees asylum in imagining as somebody he/she isn’t;
- Maybe he/she is battling to discover his/her own “place” and “status” on the planet (claiming to be progressively taught, more astute, increasingly touchy that who he/she really is);
- Maybe he/she is embarrassed around something (with respect to guardians; crime, past disappointments) and believes that by claiming to be somebody he/she isn’t, nobody will ever figure reality.
Perhaps, and possibly, and perhaps.
Regularly, your speculation is a decent as mine. Here and there even your “companion” – or ex-companion at this point? – doesn’t know about what has driven him/her to be fake, to wear a veil, to claim to be not who she/he is.